When we have a reaction or response to something that seems crazy or messed up or seems to favor a group of people but maybe not us, asking Who said? is a good step in untangling what may not work for you, or maybe our world anymore.
Isn’t it wild to realize that every rule, law, decision of how things need to be, from fashion, to the stock market, to recycling in our neighborhood, people decided that it made sense and now this is how things are accepted as the way? Who said? Who showed up at those meetings, or had the influence, or knew it would work for making more money or be good for the environment? What was motivating those who decided? Who Said?
It is good to question a lot of things we may take for granted into believing as solid truths. Beliefs we hold , we might make sacred about a rule, law or method.
We believe certain things as that is just how the world works. Who told us? Who makes up the world? People. Who decides? Those in position of power or influence at the time, or those who show up with other ideas. And in many cases we all have choice. Whether to follow the herd (mainstream) or follow your inner voice of reason and rightness. Trust what is right for you right now, as that usually is where there is true wisdom for oneself and ultimately for our relationships, family and communities. (And we don’t mean justifying our bad behavior and saying that is our inner wisdom.)
Mainstream anything, is just that, the herd not making wise choices for everyone, but doing what is easiest or most convenient for them. Pay attention. When those in your orbit say something they believe to be just the way it is, but it feels crazy weird to you in this changing world, ask yourself , is that right? Who Said? Who does that favor? What is another way I can participate, act, be, contribute that fits my nature right now and does no harm? Do sexy women wear red stilettos shoes? Do strong men not cry, share feelings, or do laundry? Who said? We each can decide, and in our own confidence or choice, be it micro or macro level, we say.
Who Said? Better conversations and solutions may come from us just asking Who Said? We all can listen, explore, untangle assumptions and amend the plan, practice or direction. Who will be most motivated to ask Who said , and listen? Those who aren’t currently being served by the way things are being done in our homes, work places, communities and beyond.
Who Said? Don’t take this author’s word for it. Keep asking and noticing and making the change that you want to see.