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Changing Systems

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“We cannot solve a crisis without treating it as a crisis….And if solutions within the system are impossible to find, then maybe we should change the system itself?” ~ Greta Thunberg, activist.

The systems of rules, laws and regulations we live by are made by man, meaning when our human-made systems interfere with the quality of life and treatment we thought inherent, then yes systems can and should change. Change, especially within systems be it a family system, a community system or a traffic system, the will of the people needs to be present to create relevant change. A wise or truth-telling person can be amongst us but until enough of us listen and begin to act on it, that wisdom and truth changes little.

It is hard for many of us, or even those before us to have been able to predict or prepare for the world and emerging systems that are dominating our lives right now. How could we? It seems dark energy has been used to work around the “mainstream and official” systems in place, creating unbelievable far-reaching oppressive ones. Trusting and law abiding citizens have had their trust used against them. Most of us are still digesting the depth and breadth of this corrupt world-wide system we are learning more about. Did we turn a blind eye to questionable things happening in our families, neighborhoods or countries over the years?

We do seem in a crisis. There are bigger words to use but ultimately this appears to be a global crisis. Slowly the layers are getting peeled back. Once past the shock we start to understand how our global systems paved the way for this dark system to get entrenched. Maybe we are thinking this is not fiction or conspiracy theories anymore but a shadow system that has been fed and growing for eons?

What to do? We rise by lifting others, and as one saying goes, “A rising tide lifts all boats”. May we each be part of that rising tide in our own corner of the world and care about all the boats, not just our own. To use our voices and our personal power to be the lift and the light for one another, illuminating the change we seek in all of our systems.

The Benefit of Conversation

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Ruptures or difference of opinion in a conversation can actually strengthen our human connection when we also repair them.

Here’s a quote from Dr. Perry page 256 in his 2023 co-authored book “What Happened to You?”

“Conversation promotes resilience; discussions and arguments over family dinners and mildly heated conversations with friends are—as long as there is repair–resilience-building and empathy-growing experiences. We shouldn’t be walking away from a conversation in a rage; we should regulate ourselves. Repair the ruptures. Reconnect and grow. When we walk away, everybody loses. We all need to get better at listening, regulating, reflecting. This requires the capacity to forgive, to be patient. Mature human interactions involve efforts to understand people who are different from us. But if we don’t have family meals, don’t go out with friends for long, in-person conversations, and communicate only via text or twitter, then we can’t create that positive, healthy back-and-forth pattern of human connection. “

Conversation of this sort seems to take practice, particularly to stay with it when it might get really uncomfortable. How many of us stick around? Or know how to? More and more it can feel risky to say what we really mean or is on our mind, even to express innocent curiosity about something. Depending on how well we know someone could influence what level of risk we would want to take in a conversation. Hmmm, does this seem a different dynamic and consideration for us in 2024 than 5, 10 or 15 years ago?

If we have had an experience with someone and had ruptures of understanding, but stayed with it to do the repair, then the relationship grows and is stronger for it. We can strengthen ties to one another in real time, with face-to-face exchanges as a means to develop deeper human connection and understanding. The desire for repair needs to be mutual, yet that mutuality is a beautiful thing, truly. Are we missing out on having meaningful conversations in our day-to-day/week-to-week lives? A good conversation experience can be enlivening, energizing and connecting. Now who doesn’t want some more of that?