Being broken is what makes us human. Sometimes we’re fractured by the choices we make; sometimes we’re shattered by things we would never have chosen. But our brokenness is also the source of our common humanity, the basis of our shared search for comfort, meaning and healing. Our shared vulnerability and imperfection nurtures and sustains our capacity for compassion. “Just Mercy” by Bryan Stevenson
This speaks to a form of courage that seems hard for us to display, feel or reveal to one another these days. Yet to be vulnerable, and share, seems one of the greatest sources of strength and courage humans have. By being vulnerable, which speaks to trusting, and inner strength, is a strong way to connect to ourselves and one another.
Being curious about one another, curious rather than afraid about how we might be different; can lead to an inspired energy to come together and solve what seems insurmountable. When we feel divided that energy isn’t there. We have choices in each moment and in each day to nurture and grow our common humanity.
In these covid times, looking to the writing of others as reminders and soothers seems the choice for Aging Deliciously right now.
Mindfulness provides a simple but powerful route for getting ourselves unstuck, back into touch with our own wisdom and vitality. It is a way to take charge of our own lives, including our relationships within the family, our relationship to work and to the larger world and planet, and most fundamentally, our relationship with oneself as a person.
From Jon Kabat-Zinn’s book ” Wherever You Go There You Are”.
In all times, and especially in crazy times, we look for aspects of life that remain constant, true and grounding. Absolutes.
In Elle Harris’s words from BellaGracemagazine.com August 2020:
Love is always the point. It is the beginning and the end. Love is the epicenter of life and nothing, nothing, overrides its importance. When you are kind, when you care, when you show people that their thoughts, opinions, and voices matter, that is love in action, and “love” the noun depends on “love” the verb to be felt. Though the world can be full of pain and doubt, havoc and hate, love is the light that eradicates the shadows and knits our souls back together. Whatever passions you pursue, they are noble when done with love.
Are you familiar with Michael A. Singer’s book, The Untethered Soul? In rereading books for their calming reminders during unsettling times in our lives, books can act like mentors. Mentors who are wise, non-judgmental and remind us of truths or practices we may need again, or may have forgotten. This passage struck a helpful chord.
At the end of Chapter 1 Singer writes:
True personal growth is about transcending the part of you that is not okay and needs protection. This is done by constantly remembering that you are the one inside that notices the voice talking. That is the way out. The one inside who is aware that you are always talking to yourself about yourself is always silent. It is a doorway to the depths of your being. To be aware that you are watching the voice talk is to stand on the threshold of a fantastic inner journey. If used properly, the same mental voice that has been a source of worry distraction, and general neurosis can become the launching ground for true spiritual awakening. Come to know the one who watches the voice, and you will come to know one of the great mysteries of creation.
I find hope in the darkest of days, and focus in the brightest. I do not judge the universe. —- Dalai Lama
There is no way around it. We find ourselves in crazy times. Yet also these times can be opportunities to whittle down to the nuggets of what most matters to us individually and those in our own wee orbits. We have the time to reflect, take stock, learn more, unlearn other things, and maybe come out of this forced “cocoon” stripped down to the essentials of what we know matters most to us. We might come through these crazy times with a clearer compass reading of where we want to spend our time, energy and resources and make that happen. In that way what we do and how we do it reflects our values and what we say matters to us. That can lead to being and feeling congruent, inside and out. Making such shifts, whittling down to the nuggets, could have impact on ourselves, others and the world we want to be a part.
In these strange times, finding ways to settle ourselves down, or take stock in a crazy moment is a helpful approach.
Recently we came across these 4 questions a young politician asks herself. We thought to share them because these questions seem helpful to ask oneself in any sticky situation.
We share them here:
What is this really about?
Is this truly important in the larger scheme of things?
Do I have the power to change this?
Will doing more make it worse or do I just ride it out?
This quote just came to our attention and caught it. We wanted to share as we muse on it some more.
“If you do not tell the truth about yourself you cannot tell it about other people.”
author Virgina Woolf ( b.1882-1941)
With this time we all have now, there also is an opportunity to learn new things and maybe create. Have we said I don’t have time for that in our past? Well, with this ‘found’ time, we can surprise ourselves, and dive into something new. Take those paints out, dust off the instrument in a forgotten corner, build that backyard sculpture, spin wool or spin a yarn, grow a garden, listen and laugh out loud, try new recipes, and maybe paint rocks and leave them around the neighborhood.
Someone may need to see, hear or find exactly what you are learning, creating or exploring right now.
Do we notice what we say, do and think in a day? Where we spend our time, energy and resources tells us what we value. Do our actions, words and thoughts impact our world, our family, our experiences? Often we hear we want the world to change, yet somehow that can seem beyond our control or influence. Yet lately it feels the world has stopped business as usual, maybe in order for us to take the time to look and see what is and is not working for our human world.
Whether we choose to be intentional or unintentional with our time, thoughts, energy and resources it is doubtful our world can be as it was before. What is the world we want to be part? Many of us had the illusion the world we lived in matched more closely what Disney movies showed us. Yet we are starting to better see that Disney movies hardly resembled anyone’s truth. Yet in seeing there has been a bigger underbelly than we fully realized, we also acknowledge it is now seeing the light of day. And it can feel like chaos. And with the light and chaos comes opportunity.
We can choose to be part of moving this “ship” around to better reflect what we want more of in this world. And we need be honest too in noticing how we could choose words, thoughts and actions to better support the world we say we want. We do have an impact.